实习医生格蕾第一季

第一次对黑人开始有感觉。

看到他做手术时带的花头巾，很可爱。

喜欢christina没有表情的脸。

反正看这两个人最有感觉后来开始喜欢Callie和ADDISON。

后来每个人都变成很爱。

我曾经是名实习医师。

我没有一周八十小时的强制工作时间，我没有遇到那么多奇怪的病例，我没有机会独自打开病人的胸腔，我没有为了弄清死因私自做尸体解剖，我们很多等等之类的。

但我有经常遇到死亡，我有争取一个上台的机会千方百计，我有遇到很多感人的，无奈的，痛心的故事。

记得某一次跟一台时间长的手术，是一位饱受结核之痛的中年汉子，他需要切除他整个左肺，因为它们已经完全没有功能。

前一天我的住院医师老师就强调了手术时间长，能坚持者才能上。

我当然希望能够见识一下，结果一过中午，我就有些头昏眼花，最终只坚持到两点就被迫下台了。

很庆幸这个病人手术很成功，恢复也不错。

虽然他日渐憔悴与消瘦，但是凭着他原本强健的体魄和不错的身体机能，这一切终究是好起来。

只是他愈加依赖起他妻子起来，每次胸穿的时候都需要握着妻子的手，经常简直不了多久就要休息一会，需要妻子安慰下才会好转。

一个四十岁正值壮年的汉子被疾病打击到信心几乎全无，所幸手术是成功的，一切都在预料中进行的。

大约一个月他出院了，我看到他的小孩和妻子都很高兴。

虽然他不再能够胜任之前的工作，但是一家人是完整的。

之后我又看见过他几次，他比住院的时候还要瘦一点，但是精神很好，复诊的情况也不错。

最后一次听见他的名字是我轮到内科的时候，刚到内科我就参加了一个病例讨论。

很遗憾，我听到了他的名字，这次确是死亡病例讨论。

无法形容我当时的感受，我明白他只是一个病人，我也只是一名实习医师。

我们没有任何感情的联系，我们并不熟知。

可我无法把一个十几天前仍旧活生生的人和一个死亡名单上的名字联系起来。

他这次入院的原因是“呼吸困难”并且有“胸闷胸痛”的症状。

入院的第一天中午，他还在吃妻子买来的一个西瓜，一切毫无征兆。

忽然他感到心疼，疼痛不可缓解，很快就丧失了意识，心跳骤停。

他没有挺过来，他成了一个冰冷的尸体。

死因待研究。

那日我们讨论了很久，终于得出了他死亡的确切原因。

后几日，我将这件事情告知了我在外科的带教住院医师，他同样是未曾意料到，死亡本就不是可以预计的，我们能做的太少了。

作为医师并不是神，医师可以治病可以救命，却力量依旧有限。

这是实习医师必须要铭记的，生命没有那么多奇迹，很多的时候都是。

格蕾奋力的抢救一个被铁竿穿透的女病人，她已经被宣告了回天乏力。

格蕾不是不懂，她只是边努力抢救边大叫：我们不能什么都不做，这是我们的责任。

旁边的“纳粹”贝利把她拉开，告诉她已经抢救了十分钟，并且这病人大动脉已经撕裂了，是无能为力的。

因为医师经常面对死亡，是病人最后能够见到的人，那感觉总会让人觉得自己象是一个无情刽子手。

疾病不是医师造成的，医师比病人更加恨疾病，更加希望能够让每一个人都恢复健康。

可是，许多时候他们能做的只是告知家属，以及宣告死亡时间。

伤痛刻在在场每一个人的身上，包括救治的医师。

谁知道，谁在乎呢？

最后，德里克和女病人的未婚夫danny说，她要我告诉你，如果我们的爱足够强大的话，我会一直陪伴在你身边的。

我的泪无法抑制的落下来。

幸运的事，是还能够在生命的最后一刻告诉重要的人，一些重要的话。

爱从来不是生活唯一的内容，它却是最重要的事。

还有一个令人遗憾的故事，一个非常年轻的女子。

送到医院的时候已经没有呼吸，她的丈夫一脸茫然的等在医院急诊室外。

不知道他们发生了什么可怕的事情，可是一定是不愉快的。

很快女子的心律失常，心率增快，变成了室上速，到室颤的时候也就是几秒的事情。

马上除颤，心律恢复了。

洗胃的时候却什么也没有清洗出来。

据说，是丈夫看到妻子喝下的农药，也就是马上送至医院。

可是依旧是无法挽回，很多时候不是每一个决定都有挽回的余地的，苦果一旦酿下，也只有吞了。

第二天，我没有看到这名女子，询问带教老师的时候，才知道她已经走了。

生命如此的脆弱，大家都明白，只有真真面对才有深刻体会。

无疑这个剧集是有艺术的加工的，比如电梯的开胸手术，比如新生儿的手术，比如很多的特定剧情。

但是这些故事可能某些都是有根据的，所以故事才会动人。

那对相携六十年的夫妻，原本要在第二个月去威尼斯旅游的，他们要乘坐尖头弯弯的船穿过叹息桥底，为的是来世还能够相守相爱。

在得知罹患绝症的消息，老两口的要求都是不要告诉对方，为了让对方快乐的生活，最终他们缓缓的牵着手走出了医院，一如既往那六十年。

而我也看到在我们遗憾的宣告病人的无能为力的时候，妻子家人痛苦的哭泣，几乎失态。

当然医院还是有很多快乐的时候，比如先天畸形的孕妇，无法平卧，脊柱也畸形。

我们采取重重方法为产妇成功娩下健康的大胖小子，也有经过重重救治，重症的脑外伤病人终于可以下床并且能够独立生活。

人生没有那么多的奇迹。

所幸我们从未失去过信心，所幸我们还没有放弃过希望，我们依旧在努力。

所以人们都在一次次的打击重生，都在一次次的努力后终究成功。

不去渴求奇迹，不放弃而已。

　　　《Grey's Anatomy》 　　关系 　　第一季开头，凌乱的现场，naked girlGrey在闹钟声中一把抓起地上睡得正酣的男人裹着的被单，并将一个枕头摔到了他的臀部上。

　　男人还想说什么，Grey请他马上离开，因为自己要上班了，而她还叫不出来他的名字。

　　他们分别前说的最后一句话是：“很高兴认识你。

” 　　COOL！

　　男女平等，莫过如此。

　　 　　enemy or competition 　　Dr. Burke得知 Dr. Shepherd是上司richard挖来，一向认为外科主任的位子在自己囊中的他，开始有了危机感。

他去问下属，问intern，自己像不像外科主任？

自己有什么缺点？

　　Dr. Shepherd大方邀约Dr. Burke下班一起去喝一杯。

他的轻松微笑，理由是：要了解你的朋友，也要了解你的敌人。

Dr. Burke则回答：you are not an enemy,you are just competition. 　　而在intern中间，竞争更无处不在，一个号召，都会有如林的手臂举起。

　　但他们的competition如此透明。

　　没有权谋、厚黑、算计，这样的competition，很好。

　　 　　3R 　　God，我喜欢Grey的内心独白。

喜欢她的3R理论。

　　她说，人生有3R:relatives,romance,roomates. 　　 　　love story 　　最近看连岳，里面充满着这个时代混乱的感情，just like天涯上那一段段故事。

老妈不知道我在看什么，里面的内容，她会吓坏的吧。

到处是婚外情、一夜情、无性爱、无爱性、劈腿、三三，如果不是可爱的连岳，谁还会认为读这样的东西是一件美好的事情呢？

　　《ugly betty》里，时尚界内，更上一层楼，是同性恋、变性人的故事了，而Danile的老妈也在为走了一个三，又来了一个三而烦恼。

　　环球同此凉热啊。

　　Frankie的最爱就是GA，多么明晰的、蓝白色的医学世界，还有Shepherd和Grey，Burke和Yang.看上去那样美好。

　　 　　情感问题 　　美好永远都只是一瞬间的事情。

　　Grey发现Shepherd原来是有老婆的。

而真在选择面前，男人更狠。

看上去冷面冷口冷心的Yang，我们以为她更冷静。

但主任的位子，让Burke做出更冷的决定。

　　两个受伤的女人相拥而取得一点点人间的温暖。

就像《Sex and the City》里的女人们。

　　越来越觉得，感情，真是一样复杂的东西。

Emotion is a mess.forever. 　　 　　good-looking man 　　和表弟论争，哪个医生帅？

我觉得Burke太帅了，就像YANG的妈妈说的，真是good-lookingman，而且黑人中，好像很少有这样帅的男人。

戴上很另类的花头巾，真是太酷了。

Shepherd当然也不错，我记起来他拍过电影《sweet home alabama》。

不过还是觉得Burke越看越帅啊。

Anyway，我和Frankie都觉得Yang不好看，但看习惯了还是有一些风情。

再说美国人眼中的亚洲美女都是此种类型，像Lucy liu式的。

　　Yang失去了一个男友、一个baby，一个输卵管，情绪终于崩溃大哭。

Burke路过，拥住了她。

很温暖。

　　不是每个故事都有美好结局。

但我们希望如此，虽然有时只是希望。

　　 　　老美女 　　Meredith当然是剧中的一号女主角，却有人不喜欢她。

　　老。

声音不好听。

　　有人说。

　　我喜欢Meredith，包括喜欢她脸上那痛苦的皱纹，喜欢她有点哑哑的却特别真实的嗓音，像哑光一样不亮眼，却有质感，令人心折。

Izzie当然也很可爱，却缺少Meredith那一种优雅的风度。

　　大多中国男人的审美观，就是青春可人，岁月的智慧，他们不懂得欣赏。

　　Pick me，choose me，and love me. 　　她对derek说。

我真是爱死这句话，但又是喜欢又是心疼。

她真是一个勇敢坚强可爱的女孩。

只是很多男人，怕接受不了这样主动又独立的思想吧。

　　 　　you deserve better. 　　you deserve better. 　　在剧中，男女分手时，我们常常可以听到这句话。

不论是否出自真心，或是礼貌，这句话，总是代表着一种理性的方式吧。

而在我们平日所看到的，分手大都很难看，仓皇、退避、谎言、拖欠、借口。

　　剧中分分合合很多，也许是为了剧情需要，但是，他们都很率直，能说出自己要说的，TO tell a lie，在美国的文化中，或许是被看作一种很大的过错，甚至人品格、人性的污点，而且他们，也总是有勇气去面对与改正。

中国人，何时有这种勇气？

　　 　　sense and sensibility 　　人给人生和社会规定了许许多多的规则。

　　《GA》里，Denny说，人生苦短，不可能都按规则来行事。

　　还有一句常说的话：We can make mistakes,everyone can make mistakes.所谓错误，也不过是在理智和感情的斗争中，人往往有时顺从了感情而非社会规则，或说，理性。

更可怕的是，人往往不知道自己内心到底在想什么？

往往，心和身体，就会背判大脑。

　　理智与情感，哪一个会占上风？

　　而意外，总是在计划时出现。

　　人生因为充满意外，因为不规则，才成为人生。

　　 　　亲人 　　Meredith，对她好的，不是她的亲爸，而是Richard，她的stepmother，对她的关心也似亲妈。

　　她的亲爸，在知道老婆抢救无效时，给了她一个耳光。

他真是一个懦弱无用的爹。

在Mer溺水抢救时，他不知道在哪里，是Richard抢救她，不抛弃，不放弃。

他明知老婆的死与她无关，为了泄愤，给了她一个耳光。

而他谈到一张老照片，津津乐道地说，这是他的另外一个女儿。

而Mer却说，那是我。

　　他的，他从小就离开的女儿。

　　我最深爱的人伤我却是最深。

　　不知为什么，我想到了郑欣宜。

　　　It takes two.　　A男和B女broke up，在我们这里简直是一石激起千层浪。

　　有人站在A一边，有人站在B一边。

　　其实，Baily说了，It takes two.　　最近可能看多了连岳和GA，我以为，无论开始人的初衷有多么美好，世界在变化，人在变化。

而快乐是不多的。

　　我希望A能快乐，我希望B能成长。

因为，　　It's time to stand up,time to grow up.　　 　　 　　　　last episode 　　看到S4，舍不得看完，希望故事继续。

看到S4，last episode，这一集，非常感动。

　　越来越理解Mere，她是一个单亲家庭的孩子，如同她的名字，grey,这名字真是好。

dark,twisted,hesitate.她与derek的感情这样纠结，是因为她被伤害，她日常的生活少有温暖的底色,所以她犹疑，惶惑，近情情怯。

　　但她在努力，在成长。

她敢于直面自己的问题，就是进了一步，她要从她母亲那里看到自己的缺陷，然后弥补，长大。

就这一点，她就是一个talent,gifted,extraordinary的人。

　　GA，讲的就是这样一群有着各自缺点的，不完美的人，可是他们都在学习成长、学习修正自己的人性弱点，正如alex眼底滑落的那一滴泪一样，令人感动。

　　这才是真正的人，这才是真正的人生，这就是GA的意义。

不熟悉的医疗题材，害怕有血腥的画面，开膛破肚。

昨晚看了第一季第三、四集，慢慢有了感觉。

那个韩裔演员扮演的角色总给我最多感触，在模特医生拼命争取已脑死亡病人生命的最后二十七分钟时，她却希望尽快宣布其死亡，好去处理更多的病人。

为了争取乳腺切除手术，她去做琐碎的事情，最后发现主治医生的目的只是希望病人能死在医院，因为病人是曾在医院工作18年的清理护士。

有一段她和病人有意思的对话，病人问，回家之后有谁等着你？

家人？

朋友？

爱人？

还是孩子？

她都不是，不知所谓了一下，然后吐出一个“床”字，更有意思的是，病人说，床，呵呵，这里多的是啊。。。

后来就在病人心跳停止的时候，其他人都放弃挽救，她却执着地想要做点什么，大概从她身上看到了和自己的某些相似，不希望她就这样的结局吧。

在让家属签字遗体捐赠时，她一份一份地让人签字，愿意捐献你丈夫的心脏、肝、肺么？

愿意捐献你丈夫的角膜么？

……这可以帮助盲人恢复视力；愿意捐献你丈夫的皮肤么？

……这可以帮助皮肤烧伤的人……妻子的疑问让她无言以对，半晌没说话，一声不响地出去了。

“纳粹”告诉她：“他”不是一具尸体，不是可以捐赠的各种器官的集合体，不是没有姓名的人，他叫XXX，是别人的丈夫，孩子的父亲，他是一个人！

在做解剖和转移器官的手术时，看着肺、肝脏等一一被取出，看着那些脱离了躯体的器官单独取出来，又被放入冰冷的单独的盒子转移到其他人体内活过来，觉得人体真是神奇，医学也是很强大啊。

当最后心脏被取出时，仪器上的指数由几十变到了零，发出持久的“哔”声，突然意识到自己的心在跳，默默地，鼓动者，支撑着我的生命，我却在浪费生命，竟也无能为力。

还有她和四人组中惟一的男生的一段对话编剧也写得超符合她的性格，男医生被病人和同事误以为是同性恋，跟她说谁谁谁以为他是什么什么时，她面无表情：那你是吗？

他矢口否认，她居然说：really？

笑死偶鸟。

另外，在和学妹聊天，有些感触，人笨笨的时候，愿意相信美好的时候，会不会更幸福些。

在经历过失望后，对什么都不再相信，坚持独自、积极地面对人生，这事靠谱么？

Alex: [one on one meeting with the Chief] I went to college on a wrestling scholarship. I played baseball, some basketball. But we'll go with football. Chief: What the hell does football have to do with who cut the LVAD wires? Alex: Let's say you were drafted to a team that wasn’t your first pick. You know, you don't like the players. You hate the way they play the game. You even think the quarterback is full of crap. The quarterback's a pain in the ass you don't owe a damned thing to. But, it's your team. You don't quit. You don't talk to the press. You don't bitch to the coach. You just, you just go out there every Sunday and you make the blocks and you take the hits and you, you play to win. You show up and you suit up and you play, because it's your freaking team. Chief: [one on one meeting with Cristina] I know your type. You're a surgical junkie. Cristina: Yes sir? Chief: I'm just saying, it's not going to be easy for you to be away from the OR that long. Cristina: No sir. Chief: And if you want to get back to the OR, you're going to tell me what I need to know, aren't you? Cristina: You're right, it's not easy for me to be away from the OR. And it's not easy for me to sit in front of you, or any other authority figure, for that matter, and not be able to give you the exact answer that you want to hear. I'm the one with the answers. I've always been the one with the answers. But right now, sir, I don't have any. Chief: Dr. Yang. Cristina: How do you keep your edge sir? Because I've watched you and you've been doing this a long time, and you're clean...you're focused, you are the job, nothing gets to you. And the thing is, sir, I was like that...until I got here, until I actually started doing this job and now everything is--is fuzzy and... Chief: That’s beside the point. Cristina: No, see, sir, this is the point. Because I can't tell you, I can't tell you what happened in that room. And before I could have; no guilt, no loyalties, no problem. Before--before I wouldn't have even been in that room. I wouldn't have gotten involved. I would have never frozen in surgery, and I would have told him what I thought he should do. I had an edge, sir. I had an edge, and I've lost it, and I need it. I need it back. So, if you could just tell me, how you keep yours and how not to be affected, I know I could be a great surgeon. So if you could just give me the answers, I would really appreciate it. Chief: You're excused Dr. Yang. Cristina: But-- Chief: You're excused. Cristina: I'll tell you, I'll tell you who cut the LVAD wires if you'll please-- Chief: No you won't, I don't want to know. Not from you. Yeah, I have the answers, but I can't tell them to you. I'm not going to be responsible for you becoming less human. Izzie: [one on one meeting with the Chief] I'm a pretty girl. Chief: What? Izzie: I'm not being arrogant, it’s just, it’s just kind of a fact. For a long time I made a career from my looks, so I get it, I'm a pretty girl. And not in a "from a certain angle" way, in an obvious way. It’s the blonde thing and the big boobs thing, big boobs are a key to obvious pretty if you know what I'm saying. Chief: Dr. Stevens. Izzie: It’s how men see me. I'm not a smart girl or an interesting girl, I'm a pretty girl. The blonde and the boobs it confuses guys into thinking that I'm someone else. And I'm used to it. And I'm used to them walking away when they realize… But then Denny goes and asks me to marry him. Chief: Is that why you cut the wires? Izzie: He doesn't make me feel like I'm a pretty girl. He makes me feel like… like me. I think he might know me. And so, if I did cut the LVAD wire, and I'm not saying that I did, but if I did, then no, I don't feel guilty. And I know that I should. And I would if it were anybody else. But I can't feel anything but happy. George: [one on one meeting with the Chief] Aren't you gonna say anything or [pause] I'm not gonna break [pause] I'm starting to get a little freaked out, but I'm not gonna break. It’s not because I don't care, because I do care what you think about me, I do. Care. I just can't tell you want you want to hear. Which seems to be a theme in my life right now. Just because you can't say something doesn't mean you don't want to, you can want to very much. You can be with a person and be happy with them and not love them. And you can love somebody and not want to be with them. You don't need to love someone to want them. Now that's frustrating, when what your brain tells you you want and what you actually want don't match up. It’s exhausting. And, well, it’s complicated. But that's life. And life... sucks. Chief: [one on one meeting with Meredith] [as Meredith is staring off] I've known you for a long time. And I know your mother and father. And I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that you did not cut those LVAD wires. Meredith, I need you to tell me who did it. Meredith: I've been going over this and over this in my mind trying to piece this together. It was you, you're the reason my parents broke up. And it wasn't just an affair, she really loved you. It wasn't just this cheap thing where she didn’t tell you she was married. It wasn't all a lie. She left her husband for you. But you stayed with your wife, because it was the right thing to do. Maybe safe, but she was the right person for you to be with. Let’s face it, my mother, nothing wrong with being safe, being with the good guy because he’s good and we are talking about forever here. You've never regretted your decision. You've never looked back... Right?

Grey's 的第七集里，被那对老夫妻感动得哭了出来。

年过半百的老人握着一起走过了半生的人同样苍老的手，互相笑着说“my love, goodbye.”在每一次手术前告别，然后在手术结束后，再次地，say hello。

因为从第一次就知道，每一次的告别都可能成为永别。

这并不是玩笑。

所以用着虔诚深情的表情和爱一次次做最后的仪式。

假以你这一次离开，也不是带着遗憾分离。

是不是这样子。

于是他们说，这才是真正的相濡以沫。

然而感动我的，却不只是这样子。

或许在等待的男人心里，从来没有真正设想和接受过那一种无法再相见的可能性。

于是理所当然地等待着同爱人说你好的时间，然而这一次的告别，却真的成为了永别。

那个苍老的、失了平静的声音在说，不要离开我。

一遍一遍。

那双老迈的、不肯停下手，执著地在早已经没了心跳的心脏上反复徒劳的动作。

只要你醒来。

上天没有赐予一点奇迹的怜悯，那个惶然无措的老人，在黄昏黑夜里，始终没有等到白昼。

那么，到底是要怎样的深情切意，才能在十年、二十年、三十年、四十年、五十年……这样漫长的时间里，一次次将无情的光阴打败。

在这个寡情而薄幸的现实里。

于是那些相濡以沫的事情，在心里渐渐筑成了一座固若金汤的城堡，那叫做……奇迹吧。

之于找寻。

多少人终其一生都在找寻。

在这样烟雾缭绕的世界里，是不是有着那样的存在，值得我们葬掉半生也要去等待。

一她长的算不上多么漂亮，只比克里斯丁娜·杨好看一些，没有伊兹·斯蒂文那么性感。

但是，她有一双象是永远沉浸在梦中的，水光荡漾的眼睛。

她有一个笑容，常常被雾笼罩的，有点无奈的，明知道蠢却也非得这么做请你原谅的笑容。

她是梅莉迪斯·格蕾，西雅图恩典医院外科女实习医生，她爱上了已婚的主治医生德瑞克·德瑞克，注定要经历悲惨的感情生活。

有朋友说剧集很好看，但是讨厌这对男女主角，按他的话说就是没一个爽快人。

德瑞克爱格蕾，当出轨的妻子把一纸离婚书给他，他却退缩了，选择了家庭却又不肯放弃格蕾。

我不讨厌他，因为生活中确实有这样的男人，在感情和内心的道德律中间摇摆不定，哪个也不想舍弃，却给所有相关的人包括他自己带来痛苦。

他的痛苦是真实的，他的感情也是真实的。

只是他在生活中无法象在手术台上那般决断。

而格蕾只是爱着，她的理智不想这样，但感情占了上风，无法控制，无可救药。

所以每次在医院，病房里，走廊上，看见德瑞克，她立刻迷失，束手无策，就象飞蛾，怎么样也抑制不了向火苗扑去的渴望。

那是与生具来的本能，我理解。

莉香对完治也是这么说的，爱上了一个人，有什么办法呢？

二伊兹也是这样。

伊兹·斯蒂文，从小在拖车屋长大的女孩，靠给《男人帮》拍内衣插页赚够了读医学院的学费。

她以为自己可以成为一个好外科医生的，但是她爱上了自己的病人，一个心脏功能衰竭却有着温暖笑容的男人，丹尼。

因此别的都不重要了。

为给爱人抢到一颗移植的心脏，她亲手割断了丹尼维持生命的管子，触犯了作为一个医生的所有禁忌，甚至法律，还把4个好友卷了进来。

当丹尼醒来的那一刻，你看她脸上的光，那是透过最黑最重的云层一角射下的太阳的光辉。

那时侯我知道，丹尼活不了了。

编剧不会让他活着。

偷来的心脏不可能属于他。

但我还是喜欢伊兹喜悦的神情，打心眼里向外发散的幸福，尽管那么短暂。

“……我觉得我的动作慢下来了。

我的动作很慢，而我周遭的一切事物却是那么快，我想回到过去，回到正常的样子，而不是现在这个可怜的伊兹，穿着礼服躺在洗手间的地板上，跟他死去的未婚夫在一起，但是我回不去了……怎么会发生这种事？

怎么会这样结束？

为什么我是孤独一人？

”三爱情不过是《实习医生格蕾》的一部分。

5个实习医生，更多的要面对生死，面对抉择，为一个生命作决定。

剧集里许多病例故事单拿出来都可以拍成一部优秀的电影。

一场火车车祸，一根钢管穿透了一对陌生男女，两个只能活一个，要放弃那个伤更重但是痛时也能说笑话的女孩吗？

一对老人，妻子只有6个月的生命，妻子瞒着丈夫，丈夫瞒着妻子，因为他们约定，要去威尼斯，在夕阳西下时候坐平底船穿过叹息桥，传说这样就会永远在一起。

一个女人晚期肺癌，她说，“我一辈子没抽过烟，没吸过大麻，从不喝酒，今天之前，10年没吃过甜点，在别人眼里，是健康的化身，可我却得了肺癌，很荒谬是吗？

我一辈子都压抑，抑制每个冲动，遵守规则，现在我不要这么做了。

我要找回我的生活。

”她拒绝了手术，出院了——“至少在我这么做的时候，我知道自己曾经活过。

”生老病死，人生里所有的线索最后在这里交织，展现出真实与残酷的一面，阴影中又有勇气和美好。

四心是我们活着的标志。

一颗健康的心就象战鼓，把携带养分的血液及时泵到全身，是维持我们生命的动力系统。

人心千姿百态，梅雷迪斯·格雷痴情的心，克里斯丁娜·杨捉摸不定的心，伊兹·斯蒂文狂热的心，乔治·梅利淳朴的心，亚里克斯·卡莱脆弱的心。

最完美的心是住院医生米兰达.贝莉的，坦率近乎透明，真实如刀锋入骨，被唤作纳粹，却在严厉中让你体会真正的善良。

人心是脆弱的。

冠心病，先心病，风心病，心肌病……心会累，会疲倦，也想休息，逃避，时不时的怠工。

有人想换掉，有人甘愿坚守。

所以西雅图恩典医院最好的心胸外科医生伯克总是很忙，忙着用手术刀划开胸腔，把一颗心拿出来，捧在手里，切切剪剪，缝缝补补。

那些受伤的心，有些死了，有些开始新生。

我最喜欢的斯丁的歌是关于心的，《Shape of My Heart》——我知道黑桃代表卫兵的剑，我知道梅花是战争的枪，我知道钻石象征着财富，但是那并非我心的形状， That′s not the shape, the shape of my heart ……亦舒小说里常提到洛史超域的一首歌，也是与心有关。

《玫瑰的故事》中——气渐渐有点凉意,我驾车上班,扭开无线电听,红灯的时候头枕在驾驶盘上,无线电上在播放洛史超域的歌——“我不想说及/你如何碎了我的心/如果我再逗留一刻/你是否聆听我的心/噢,心/我的心/我的老心”。

《丁香》中——她身边放看一架小小无线电，正在播放洛史超域那永远不灭的歌：“如果我独自站着，影子是否会掩藏我心的颜色，蓝色是眼泪，黑色是天空运行的星，对你来说， 不会比一面镜子更有意义……”我一向最爱洛史超域的慢歌，充满感情的声音诉说一些微不足道的琐事，但这琐事却是爱情呢……亦舒有个短篇就叫《破碎的心》——　我立刻注意到她脖子上挂的一条项链，红色珊瑚的小珠子，串住一颗金色的心型坠子，本来很普通，但是那枚心在左上方却是有裂痕的，细细的痕中嵌镶着碎粒的蓝宝石，像是心碎了，又复元了，但永远留下难忘的瘀痕。

开头是破碎的心，结尾也是——我是一个成年人，以后的生活，再凄苦再空虚，我还是得若无其事地活下去。

但是我的心已碎。

可儿在我的生命中出现、消失，如一颗流星，闪亮后的黑暗，我也会学习习惯。

但要忘记她，却也不是这么容易的一件事呢，每次看到穿白衣的女孩子，我的心使隐隐作痛。

我开始爱上洛史超域的一首歌：——“我的心，我的老心，如果我再逗留一刻，你是否会聆听我的心？

”看来，在我们一生中，心都是要破碎的，有的碎的多一点，有的少一点，有的很快就修补上了，有的留下疤痕，有的留下裂缝，也有的干枯至死。

只是，你的心，是否曾有人聆听？

大家还记得yang的妈妈吗？

那个搞装饰的母亲。

周采芹，著名国际演员，周信芳的女儿。

早年曾就读于上海中西女中，周采芹十七岁赴英深造，毕业于英国皇家戏剧学院。

七十年代，获美国塔夫特大学戏剧硕士。

自1960年以来，周采芹在西方的舞台和银幕上取得了辉煌的成功。

1959年在伦敦出演舞台剧《苏丝黄的世界》，连演三年，场场爆满。

在这个英国舞台剧最兴旺的年代，周采芹红极一时。

1972年，在英国电视剧《斗争对象》中主演王光美一角被英国电影电视演员协会提名为当年最佳电视演员。

作为最早参与西方影视剧的中国演员，周采芹的简历中有很多第一：· 英国皇家戏剧学院第一个中国学生· 第一个登上英国伦敦西区舞台主演的中国演员· 第一个在英国出版中英文唱片的中国歌手，其中英文版本的“第二春”一曲曾在亚洲连续两年独占排行榜首位· 第一位中国“007女郎”· 第一个被提名英国最佳电视演员的中国演员 · 1980年回国在中央戏剧学院执教，成为第一个到该校执教的“回归”专家· 英国皇家戏剧学院的第一名中国院士· 首个亚洲演员在伦敦和纽约两地先后领衔主演舞台剧，也是首个在剧院外设霓虹灯名字的亚洲演员 作为演员周采芹 Tsai Chin的电影作品(数量：34)Year of the Fish --- (2007) Hollywood Chinese --- (2007) 舞会战士 Wendy Wu: Homecoming Warrior --- (2006) 007：皇家赌场/007大战皇家赌场/007之皇家赌场 Casino Royale --- (2006) 翻译风波/翻译员/致命译电/双面翻译/叛译者 The Interpreter --- (2005) 艺伎回忆录/一个艺伎的回忆 Memoirs of a Geisha --- (2005) 实习医生格蕾 "Grey's Anatomy" --- (2005) 爱伦的日记 The Diary of Ellen Rimbauer --- (2003) Long Life, Happiness & Prosperity --- (2002) Inside 'You Only Live Twice' --- (2000) The Gold Cup --- (2000) 冰冻星球 Titan A.E. --- (2000) Journey from the Heart --- (2000) My American Vacation --- (1999) The Magic Pearl --- (1997) 红色角落 Red Corner --- (1997) Crowfoot --- (1995) The West Side Waltz --- (1995) 喜福会 The Joy Luck Club --- (1993) Rentadick --- (1972) Folterkammer des Dr. Fu Man Chu, Die --- (1969) The Virgin Soldiers --- (1969) 魔宫煞星 The Blood of Fu Manchu --- (1968) The Vengeance of Fu Manchu --- (1967) 007系列:雷霆谷/你只能活两次 You Only Live Twice --- (1967) The Brides of Fu Manchu --- (1966) 放大/爆炸/春光乍泄 Blowup --- (1966) Invasion --- (1965) 不死毒王 The Face of Fu Manchu --- (1965) The Cool Mikado --- (1962) The Treasure of San Teresa --- (1959) Violent Playground --- (1958) 六福客栈 The Inn of the Sixth Happiness --- (1958) 扬子江突围记/逃出铁幕 Yangtse Incident: The Story of H.M.S. Amethyst --- (1957)

刚刚看完S4 09心情低落，于我似乎永远也不能预见Mere和Derek是否能在一起了。

这些天对Grey's Anatomy沉迷的不行，它的配乐，它的剧情。

仿佛Grey就在我身边，她的痛苦她的难过她的犹豫都在我的身边上演

The best of this soap opera is voiceover in each episode. It intrigues me to scribble down every sentence of voiceover when watching it. It is food for thought. I like this way to say something about life, love, friend, job, responsibility, loneliness and so on in this series. It make me contemplating what has happened in my life.Attached is what I record, share with "同好":Season1 Episode 1: A hard Day’s nightThe game. They say either a person has what it takes to play, or they don't.There comes a moment when it's more than just a game. And you either take that step forward, or turn around and walk away.E5: “shake your groove thing”Remember when you were a kid and your biggest worry was, like, if you'd get a bike for your birthday, or if you get to eat cookies for breakfast. Being an adult? Totally overrated. I mean, seriously, don't be fooled by all the hot shoes and the great sex and the no parents anywhere telling you to do. Adulthood is responsibility. Responsibility, it really does suck. Really, really sucks. Adults have to be places and do things and earn a living and pay the rent. Kinda makes bikes and cookies look really really good, doesn't it?The scariest part about responsibility: when you screw up and let it slip right through your fingers.Unfortunately, once you get past the age of braces and training bras, responsibility doesn't go away.It can't be avoided. Either someone makes us face it, or we suffer the consequences. And still, adulthood has its perks. E6 “ If tomorrow never comes”A couple hundred years ago, Benjamin Franklin shared with the world the secret of his success. "Never leave that till tomorrow," he said, "which you can do today." This is the man who discovered electricity. You'd think more of us would listen to what he had to say. I don't know why we put things off, but if I had to guess, I'd say it has a lot to do with fear. Fear of failure, fear of pain, fear of rejection. Sometimes, the fear is just of making a decision. Because, what if you're wrong? What if you're making a mistake you can't undo? Whatever it is we're afraid of, one thing holds true. That, by the time the pain of not doing a thing gets worse than the fear of doing it, it can feel like we're carrying around a giant tumor. And you thought I was speaking metaphorically.The early bird catches the worm. A stitch in time saves nine. He who hesitates is lost. We can't pretend we haven't been told. We've all heard the proverbs, heard the philosophers, heard our grandparents warning us about wasted time, heard the damn poets urging us to seize the day. Still, sometime we have to see for ourselves. We have to make our own mistakes. We have to learn our own lessons. We have to sweep today's possibility under tomorrow's rug until we can't anymore, until we finally understand for ourselves what Benjamin Franklin meant. That knowing is better than wondering. That waking is better than sleeping. And that even the biggest failure, even the worst, most intractable mistake beats the hell out of never trying.E07 “ The self destruct button”I mean, if life's so hard already, why do we bring more trouble down on ourselves? What's up with the need to hit the self-destruct button? Maybe we like the pain. Maybe we're wired that way. Because without it, I don't know... ...maybe we just wouldn't feel real. What's that saying? "Why do I keep hitting myself with a hammer?" "Because it feels so good when I stop."E08 “Save me”You know how when you were a kid and you believed in fairy tales? That fantasy of what your life would be. White dress, Prince Charming, Who'd carry you away to a castle on a hill. You'd lie in bed at night and close your eyes, and you had complete and utter faith. Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy, Prince Charming, they were so close, you could taste them. But eventually, you grow up. One day you open your eyes, and the fairy tale disappears. Most people turn to the things and people they can trust. But the thing is, it's hard to let go of that fairy tale entirely. Cause almost everyone still has that smallest bit of hope, of faith, that one day they'll open their eyes and it will all come true.E09 “who’s zooming who”Secrets can't hide in science. Medicine has a way of exposing the lies. Within the walls of the hospital, the truth is stripped bare. How we keep our secrets outside the hospital...Well, that's a little different. One thing is certain. Whatever it is we're trying to hide, we're never ready for that moment when the truth gets naked. That's the problem with secrets. Like misery, they love company. They pile up and up until they take over everything. Until you don't have room for anything else. Until you're so full of secrets, you feel like you're going to burst.The thing people forget is how good it can feel when you finally set secrets free.Whether good or bad, at least they're out in the open, like it or not. And once your secrets are out in the open, you don't have to hide behind them anymore. The problem with secrets is even when you think you're in control... ...you're not.Season 2E1 “Raindrops keep falling on my head”To be a good surgeon, you have to think like a surgeon. Emotions are messy. Tuck them neatly away and step into a clean, sterile room where the procedure is simple. Cut, suture and close. But sometimes, you're faced with a cut that won't heal. A cut that rips it's stitches wide open.The say practice makes perfect. Theory is, the more you think like a surgeon, the more you become one. The better you get at remaining neutral, clinical. Cut, suture, close. And the harder it becomes to turn it off? to stop thinking like a surgeon. And remember what it means to think like a human being.E2 “Enough is enough (no more tears)”I have an aunt who, whenever she poured anything for you, would say, "Say when." My aunt would say, "Say when," and of course we never did. We don't say "when" because there's something about the possibility of more. More tequila. More love. More anything. More is better.There's something to be said about a glass half full. About knowing when to say when. I think it's a floating line. A barometer of need and desire. It's entirely up to the individual. And depends on what's being poured. Sometimes all we want is a taste. Other times, there's no such thing as enough. The glass is bottomless. And all we want is more.E3 “Make me lose control”Surgeons are control freaks. With a scalpel in your hand, you feel unstoppable. There's no fear, there's no pain. You're 10 feet tall and bullet proof. And then you leave the O.R. And all that perfection. All that beautiful control just falls to crap.No one likes to lose control but as a surgeon there's nothing worse. It's a sign of weakness. Of not being up to the task. And still there are times when it just gets away from you. When the world stops spinning. And you realize that your shiny little scalpel isn't gonna save you. No matter how hard you fight it. You fall. And its scary as hell. Except there's an upside to free falling. It's the chance you give your friends to catch you.E4” deny, deny, deny”The key to surviving a surgical internship is denial. We deny that we're tired, we deny that we're scared, we deny how badly we want to succeed, and most importantly, we deny that we're in denial. We only see what we wanna see and believe what we want to believe. And it works. We lie to ourselves so much that after a while, the lies start to seem like the truth. We deny so much that we can't recognize the truth, right in front of our faces.Sometimes reality has a way of sneaking up and biting us in the ass. And when the damn bursts all you can do is swim. The world of pretend is a cage, not a cocoon. We can only lie to ourselves for so long. We are tired. We are scared. Denying it doesn't change the truth. Sooner or later, we have to put aside our denial ... and face the world head on gun's blazing. Denial. It's not just a river in Egypt. It's a freaking ocean. So how do you keep from drowning in it?E5 “Bring the pain”Pain comes in all forms. The small twinge, a bit of soreness, the random pain. The normal pains we live with every day. Then there's the kind of pain you can't ignore. A level of pain so great that it blocks out everything else. Makes the rest of the world fade away. Until all we can think about is how much we hurt. How we manage our pain is up to us. Pain. We anaesthetize...ride it out, embrace it, ignore it... And for some of us, the best way to manage pain is to just push through it.Pain. You just have to ride it out. Hope it goes away on its own. Hope the wound that caused it heals. There are no solutions. No easy answers. You just breathe deep and wait for it to subside. Most of the time pain can be managed. But sometimes, the pain gets to you when you least expect it. Hit's way below the belt and doesn't let up. Pain. You just have to fight through because the truth is you can't out run it. And life always make more.E6 “Into you like a Train”In general... people can be categorized in one of two ways. Those who love surprises, and those who don't. I don't. I've never met a surgeon that enjoys a surprise, because, as surgeons we like to be in the know. We have to be in the know. Because when we aren't, people die and lawsuits happen. Am I rambling? I think I'm rambling. Ok, so my point actually ... and I do have one. Has nothing to do with surprises or death or lawsuits or even surgeons. My point is this: whoever said what you don't know can't hurt you was a complete and total moron. Because for most people I know, not knowing is the worst feeling in the world.As surgeons, there are so many things we have to know. We have to know we have what it takes. We have to know how to take care of our patients. And how to take care of each other. Eventually we even have to figure out... how to take care of ourselves. As surgeons we have to be in the know. But as human beings, sometimes it's better to stay in the dark. Because in the dark, there maybe fear... ... but there's also hope.E8 “Let it Be”In the 8th grade, my English class had to read Romeo & Juliet. Then for extra credit, Mrs. Snyder made us act out all the parts. Sal Scafarillo was Romeo. As fate would have it, I was Juliet. All the other girls were jealous but I had a slightly different take. I told Mrs. Snyder that Juliet was an idiot. For starters, she falls for the one guy she knows she can't have. Then she blames fate for her own bad decision. Mrs. Snyder explained to me that when fate comes into play, choice sometimes goes out the window. At the ripe old age of 13, I was very clear. That love like life is about making choices. And fate has nothing to do with it. Everyone thinks it's so romantic. Romeo & Juliet. True love. How sad. If Juliet was stupid enough to fall for the enemy, drink a bottle of poison and go to sleep in a mausoleum ... ... she deserved whatever she got.Maybe Romeo & Juliet were fated to be together, but just for a while. And then their time passed. If they could've known that beforehand maybe it would've all been ok. I told Mrs. Snyder that when I was growing up I'd take fate into my own hands. I wouldn't let some guy drag me down. Mrs. Snyder said that I'd be lucky if I ever had that kind of passion with someone. And that if I did, we'd be together forever. Even now I believe for the most part love is about choices. It's about putting down the poison and the dagger and making your own happy ending ... most of the time. And that sometimes despite all your best choices and all your best intentions, fate wins anyway.E09: “Thanks for the memories”Gratitude, appreciation, giving thanks. No matter what words you use, it all means the same thing. Happy. We're supposed to be happy. Grateful for friends, family, happy just to be alive... Whether we like it or not.Maybe we're not supposed to be happy. Maybe gratitude has nothing to do with joy. Maybe being grateful is recognizing what you have for what it is. Appreciate small victories. Admiring the struggle it takes simply to be human. Maybe we're thankful for the familiar things we know. And maybe we're thankful for things we'll never know. At the end of the day, the fact that we have the courage to still be standing ... ... is reason enough to celebrate.E10 “Much too much”When you were a kid, it was Halloween candy. You hid it from your parents and ate it until you got sick. In college it was the heady combo of youth, tequila and well you know... As a surgeon you take as much of the good as you can get... because it doesn't come around nearly as often as it should. Cause good things aren't always what they seem. Too much of anything, even love is not always a good thing.How do you know how much is too much? Too much, too soon. Too much information. Too much fun. Too much love. Too much to ask. And when is it all just too much to bear?E11 “Owner of a lonely heart”Forty years ago, The Beatles asked the world a simple question. They wanted to know where all the lonely people came from. My latest theory is that a great many of the lonely people come from hospitals. More precisely the surgical wings of hospitals. As surgeons we ignore our own needs so we can meet our patients' needs. We ignore our friends and families so we can save other people's friends and families. Which means that at the end of the day all we really have is ourselves. And nothing in this world can make you feel more alone than that.400 years ago another well known English guy had an opinion about being alone. John Donne. He thought we were never alone. Of course it was fancier when he said it. No man is an island entire unto himself. Boil down that island talk and he just meant that all anyone needs is someone to step in. And let us know we're not alone. And who's to say that someone can't have 4 legs. Someone to play with or run around with. Or just hang out.E12 “Grandma got run over by a reindeer”It's an urban myth that suicide rates spike at the holidays. Turns out, they actually go down. Experts think that people are less inclined to off themselves when surrounded by family. Ironically, that same family togetherness is thought to be the reason depression rates actually do spike at the holidays.There's an old proverb that says you can't choose your family. You take what the fates hand you... ...and like them or not, love them or not, understand them or not ... ...you cope. Then there's the school of thought that says the family you're born into is simply a starting point. They feed you and clothe you and take care of you until your ready to go out into the world. ...and find your tribe.E13 “Begin the begin”Fresh starts. Thanks to the calendar, they happen every year. Just set your watch to January. Our reward for surviving the holiday season is a new year. Bringing on the great tradition of New Year's resolutions. Put your past behind you and start over. It's hard to resist the chance at a new beginning. A chance to put the problems of last year to bed.Who gets to determine when the old ends and the new begins? It's not a day on a calendar. Not a birthday, not a new year. It's an event, big or small, something that changes us. Ideally it gives us hope. A new way of living and looking at the world. Letting go of old habits, old memories. What's important is that we never stop believing, we can have a new beginning. But it's also important to remember that amid all the crap are a few things really worth holding on to.E14 “Tell me sweet little lies”As doctors we're trained to skeptical because our patients lie to us all the time. The rule is: every patient is a liar until proven honest. Lying is bad. Or so we're told. Constantly, from birth. Honesty is the best policy. The truth shall set you free. I chop down the cherry tree. Whatever. The fact is, lying is a necessity. We lie to ourselves because the truth, the truth freaking hurts.No matter how hard we try to ignore it or deny it. Eventually the lies fall away. Whether we like it or not. But here's the truth about the truth. It hurts. So we lie.E16: “It’s the end of the world”It's a look patients get in their eyes. There is a scent. The smell of death. Some kind of sixth sense. When the great beyond is headed for you, you feel it coming. What's the one thing you've always dreamed of doing before you die? E17 “As we know it”In hospitals they say you know. You know when you're going to die. Some doctors say it's a look patients get in their eyes. Some say there's a scent. The smell of death. Something. There's just some kind of sixth sense. When the great beyond is heading for you. You feel it coming. Whatever it is. It's creepy. Because if you know. What do you do about? Forget about the fact you're scared out of your mind. If you knew this was your last day on Earth, how would you want to spend it?(现在似乎流行这样的假设，在北美大学，流行”last lecture”)E18 “Yesterday”After careful consideration and many sleepless nights, here's what I've decided. There's no such thing as a grown up. We move on, we move out, we move away from our families and form our own. But the basic insecurities, the basic fears and all those old wounds just grow up with us. And just when we think that life and circumstance have forced us to truly, once and for all become an adult ... We get bigger, we get taller, we get older. But for the most part, we're still a bunch of kids. Running around the playground trying desperately to fit in.We whisper secrets with our best friends in the dark. We look for comfort where we can find it. And we hope. Against all logic. Against all experience. Like children, we never give up hope.E19 “ What have I done to deserve this”Ok so sometimes even the best of us make rash decisions. Bad decisions. Decisions we pretty much know we're gonna regret the moment, the minute, especially the morning after. I mean maybe not regret, regret because at least you know we put ourselves out there. But still ... something inside us decides to do a crazy thing. A thing we know that'll probably turn around and bite us in the ass. Yet, we do it anyway.What I'm saying is ... we reap what we sow. What comes around goes around. It's karma and any way you slice it ... ... karma sucks. Like I was saying ... ... payback's a bitch.One way or another, our karma, will leave us to face ourselves. We can look our karma in the eye or we can wait for it to sneak up on us from behind. One way or another, our karma will always find us. And the truth is as surgeons we have more chances than most to set the balance in our favor. No matter how hard we try, we can't escape our karma. It follows us home. I guess we can't really complain about karma. It's not unfair. It's not unexpected. It just ... evens the score. And even when we're about to do something we know will tempt karma to bite us in the ass ... ... well it goes without saying ... ...we do it anyway.E20 “ Band Aid covers the bullet hole”As doctors patients are always telling us how they would do our jobs. Just stitch me up, slap a band-aid on it and send me home. It's easy to suggest a quick solution when you don't know much about the problem. When you don't understand the underlying cause ... ... or just how deep the wound really is. The first step towards a real cure is to know exactly what the disease is to begin with. But that's not what people want to hear. We're supposed to forget the past that landed us here, ignore the future complications that might arise and go for the quick fix.As doctors, as friends, as human beings we all try to do the best we can. But the world is full of unexpected twists and turns. And just when you've gotten the lay of the land, the ground underneath you, shifts. And knocks you off your feet. If you're lucky, you end up with nothing more than a flesh wound. Something a band-aid will cover. But some wounds are deeper than they first appear and require more than just a quick fix. With some wounds, you have to rip off the band-aid, let them breathe and give them time to heal.E21 “Superstition”My college campus has a magic statue. It's a long-standing tradition for students to rub it's nose for good luck. My freshman roommate really believed in the statue's power... ...and insisted on visiting it to rub it's nose before every exam. Studying might have been a better idea. She flunked out her sophomore year. But the fact is we all have little superstitious things that we do. If it's not believing in magic statues, it's avoiding sidewalk cracks, or always putting out left shoe on first. Knock on wood. Step on a crack, break your mother's back. The last thing we want to do is offend the gods.Superstition lies in the space between what we can control... and what we can't. Find a penny, pick it up, and all day long you'll have good luck. No one wants to pass up a chance for good luck. But does saying it 33 times really help? Is anyone really listening? And if no one's listening, why do we bother doing those strange things at all? We rely on superstitions because we're smart enough to know we don't have all the answers. And that life works in mysterious ways. Don't diss the juju...from wherever it comes.E22 “ The name of the game”A good basketball game can have us all on the edge of our seats. Games are all about the glory, the pain and the play-by-play. And then there are the more solitary games. The games we each play all by ourselves. The social games, the mind games, we use them to pass the time. To make life more interesting. To distract us from what's really going on. There are those of us who love to play games. Any game. And there are those of us who love to play...a little too much.Life is not a spectator sport. Win, lose or draw...the game is in progress...whether we want it to be or not. So go ahead: argue with the refs, change the rules...cheat a little...take a break...and tend to your wounds. But play. Play hard. Play fast. Play loose and free. Play as if there's no tomorrow. Ok, so it's not whether you win or lose...it's how you play the game. Right?E23 “Blues for sister someone”The key to being a successful intern is what we give up. Sleep, friends, a normal life. We sacrifice it all for that one amazing moment. That moment when you can legally call yourself a surgeon. There are days that make the sacrifices seem worthwhile. And then there are the days where everything feels like a sacrifice. And then there are the sacrifices that you can't even figure out why you're making.A wise man once said, "You can have anything in life, if you will sacrifice everything else for it." What he meant is, nothing comes without a price. So before you go into battle, you better decide how much you're willing to lose. Too often, going after what feels good, means letting go of what you know is right. And letting someone in means abandoning the walls you've spent a lifetime building. Of course the toughest sacrifices are the ones we don't see coming. When we don't have time to come up with a strategy, to pick a side or measure the potential loss. When that happens, when the battle chooses us, and not the other way around, that's when the sacrifice can turn out to be more than we can bear.E24 “Damage Case”We all go through life like bulls in a china shop. A chip here, a crack there. Doing damage to ourselves. To other people. The problem is trying to figure out how to control the damage we have done. Or that's been done to us. Sometimes the damage catches us by surprise. Sometimes we think we can fix the damage. And sometimes the damage is something we can't even see.We're all damaged, it seems. Some of us more than others. We carry the damage with us from childhood. Then, as grown-ups, we give as good as we get. Ultimately, we all do damage. And then...we set about the business of fixing...whatever we can.E25 “17 seconds”In life, we are taught that there are seven deadly sins. We all know the big ones: Gluttony, pride, lust. But the sin you don't hear much about is anger. Maybe it's because we think anger's not that dangerous. That we can control it. My point is, maybe we don't give anger enough credit. Maybe it can be a lot more dangerous than we think. After all, when it comes to destructive behavior... ...it did make the top seven.So what makes anger different from the six other deadly sins? It's pretty simple really. You give in to a sin like envy or pride then you only hurt yourself. Try lust or coveting and you'll only hurt yourself, and probably one or two others. But anger...anger is the worst. The mother of all sins. Not only can anger drive you over the edge, when it does, you can take an awful lot of other people with you.E26 “Deterioration of the fight or flight response”Human beings need a lot of things to feel alive. We can't control it.Season 3E01 “Time has come today”In the OR, time loses all meaning. In the midst of sutures and saving lives, the clock ceases to matter. 15 minutes. 15 hours. Inside the OR, the best surgeons make time fly. Outside the OR however, time takes pleasure in kicking our asses. For even the strongest of us, it seems to play tricks. Slowing down, hovering....until it freezes, leaving us stuck in a moment, unable to move in one direction or the other.Time flies Time waits for no man. Time heals all wounds. All any of us wants is more time Time to stand up... time to grow up. Time to let go.E02 “I am a tree”At any moment, the brain has 14 billion neurons firing at a speed of 450 miles per hour. We don't have control over most of them. When we get a chill, goosebumps. When we get excited, adrenaline. The body naturally follows it's impulses, which I think is part of what makes it so hard for us to control ours. Of course, sometimes we have impulses we'd rather not control. That we later wish we had.The body is a slave to its impulses. But the thing that makes us human... Is what we can control. after the storm. After the rush. After the heat of the moment has passed. We can cool off and clean up the messes we've made. We can try to let go of what was. And then again...E03 “Sometimes a fantasy”Surgeons usually fantasize about wild and improbable surgeries. Someone collapses in a restaurant; we splice them open with a butter knife. Replace a valve with a hollowed-out stick of carrot. But every now and then, some other kind of fantasy slips in. Most of our fantasies dissolve when we wake. Banished to the back of our mind. But sometimes we're sure, if we try hard enough, we can live the dream.The fantasy is simple. Pleasure is good. And twice as much pleasure is better. That pain is bad. And no pain is better. But the reality is different. The reality is that pain is there to tell us something. And there's only so much pleasure we can take without getting a stomach ache. And maybe that's OK. Maybe some fantasies are only supposed to live in our dreams.E04 “What I am”At some point during surgical residency, most interns get a sense of who they are as doctors, and the kind of surgeons they're going to become If you ask them they'll tell you. They're going to be General surgeons. Orthopedic surgeons. Neurosurgeons. Distinctions that do more than describe their areas of expertise. They help define who they are. Because Outside the operating room, not only do most surgeons have no clue who they are, they're afraid to find out.E05 “Oh, the guilt”First, do no harm. As doctors we pledge to live by this oath. But harm happens. Then guilt happens, and there's no oath for how to deal with that.First, do no harm. Easier said than done. We can take all the oaths in the world but the fact is... most of us do harm all the time.Sometimes even when we're trying to help, we do more harm than good. And then the guilt rears its ugly head. What you do with that guilt is entirely up to you. We're left with a choice... Either you can let guilt thrown you back into the behavior that got you in trouble in the first place, or learn from the guilt, and do your best to move on.E06 “Let the angels commit”To make it... really make it as a surgeon, it takes major commitment. We have to be willing to pick up that scalpel that may or may not do more damage than good. It's all about being committed. Cause if we're not, we have no business picking up that scalpel in the first place.There are times when even the best of us have trouble with commitment, and we may be surprised at the commitments we're willing to let slip out of our grasp. Commitments are complicated. We may surprise ourselves by the commitments we're willing to make. True commitment, takes effort, and sacrifice. Which is why sometimes, we have to learn the hard way, to choose our commitments very carefully.E07 “Where the boys are”As surgeons we're trained to look for disease. Sometimes, the disease is easily detected. Most of the time, we need to go step by step. First, probing the surface, looking for any sign of trouble. A mole or a lesion, or an unwelcome lump. Most of the time, we can't tell what's wrong with somebody just by looking at them. After all, they can look perfectly fine on the outside, while their insides tell us a whole different story.Not all wounds are superficial. Most wounds run deeper than imagined. You can't see them with the naked eye. And then there are the wounds that take us by surprise. The trick to any wound or disease is to dig down deep and find the real source of the injury. And once you've found it... try like hell to heal that sucker.E08 “staring at the sun”Many people don't know that the human eye has a blind spot in its field of vision. There's a part of the world that we are literally blind to. The problem is, sometimes our blind spots shield us from things that really shouldn't be ignored. Sometimes our blind spots keep our lives bright and shiny.When it comes to our blind spots, maybe our brains aren't compensating. Maybe they're protecting us.E09 “From a whisper to a scream”As doctors, we know everybody's secrets. Their medical histories, sexual histories, confidential information that is as essential to a surgeon as a 10-blade. And every bit as dangerous. We keep secrets. We have to. But not all secrets can be kept.In some ways, betrayal is inevitable. When our bodies betray us, surgery is often the key to recovery. When we betray each other, the path to recovery is less clear. We do whatever it takes to rebuild the trust. And then there are some wounds that are so deep, so profound, that there's no way to repair what was lost. And when that happens, there's nothing left to do but wait.E10 “Don’t stand so close to me”At the end of the day, when it comes down to it, all we really want is to be close to somebody. So this thing where we all keep our distance, and pretend not to care about each other...it's usually a load of bull. So we pick and choose who we want to remain close to. and once we've chosen those people we tend to stick close by. no matter how much we hurt them. The people that are still with you at the end of the day, those are the ones worth keeping.E13 “Great Expectations”No one believes their life will turn out just kind of ok. We all think we're going to be great. And from the day we decide to become surgeons, we are filled with expectation. Expectations of the trails we will blaze, the people we will help, the difference we will make. Great expectations of who we will be, where we will go, and then we get there.We all think we're going to be great. And we feel robbed when our expectations aren't met. But sometimes our expectations sell us short. Sometimes, the expected pales in comparison to the unexpected. You gotta wonder why we cling to our expectations, because the unexpected is just what keeps us steady...standing...still. The expected is just the beginning. The unexpected is what changes our lives.E14 “wishing and hoping”As surgeons we live in a world of worst-case scenarios. We cut ourselves off from hoping for the best because too many times the best doesn't happen. But every now and then something extraordinary occurs ... ...and suddenly best-case scenarios seem possible. And every now and then...something amazing happens. And against our better judgment, we start to have hope.As doctors, we're trained to give our patients just the facts. But what are patients really want to know is. Will the pain ever go away? Will I feel better? Am I cured? What are patients really want to know is... ...is their hope. But inevitably there are times when you find yourself in the worst-case scenario. When the patient's body has betrayed them and all the science we have to offer has failed them. When the worst-case scenario comes true, clinging to hope is all we have left.E15 “ walk on water”Disappearances happen in science, disease can suddenly fade away. Tumors go missing. We open someone up to discover the cancer is gone. It's unexplained, it's rare, bit it happens. We call it misdiagnosis say we never saw it, any explanation but the truth. That life is full of vanishing acts. If something that we didn't know we had disappears, do we miss it?E16 “drowning on dry land”Like I said disappearances happen. Pains go phantom, blood stops running, and people fade away. There's more I have to say. So much more. But I've disappeared.E17 “some kind of miracle”There are medical miracles. Being worshippers at the alters of science we don't like to believe miracles exist, but they do. Things happen...we can't explain them, we can't control them, but they do happen. Miracles do happen in medicine. They happen every day just not always when we need them to happen.At the end of a day like this, a day when so many prayers are answered and so many aren't... We take our miracles where we find them. We reach across the gap and sometimes against all odds, against all logic, we touch.E18 “scars and souvenirs”People have scars in all sorts of unexpected places. Like secret roadmaps of their personal histories... ...diagrams of all their old wounds. Most of our old wounds heal leaving nothing behind but a scar, but some of them don't. Some wounds we carry with us everywhere... ...and though the cuts long gone... ...the pain still lingers.What's worse, new wounds which are so horribly painful... :...or old wounds that should have healed years ago and never did. Maybe our old wounds teach us something... ...they remind us of where we've been and what we've overcome. They teach us lessons about what to avoid in the future. That's what we like to think. But that's not the way it is, is it? Something's we just have to learn over and over and over again.E19 “my favorite mistake”Surgeons always have a plan, where to cut, where to clamp, where to stitch. But even with the best plans, complications can arise, things can arise and suddenly you're caught with your pants down.The thing about plans is...they don't take into account the unexpected. So, when we're thrown a curve ball, whether it's in the OR, or in life. We have to improvise. Of course, some of us are better at it than others. Some of us just have to move on to Plan B and make the best of it. And sometimes... ...what we want... ...is exactly... ...what we need. But sometimes... Sometimes what we need is a new plan.E20 “time after time”A patient's history is as important as their symptoms. It's what helps us decide if heartburn's a heart attack, if a headache's a tumor. Sometimes patients will try to rewrite their own histories. They'll claim they don't smoke or forget to mention certain drugs, which in surgery can be the kiss of death. We can ignore it all we want. But our history, eventually, always comes back to haunt us.Some people believe that without history our lives amount to nothing. At some point we all have to choose. Do we fall back on what we know... Or do we step forward to something new. It's hard not to be haunted by our past. Our history is what shapes us, what guides us. Our history resurfaces time after time after time. So we have to remember sometimes the most important history is the history we're making today.E21 “Desire”As interns we know what we want...to become surgeons. And will do anything to get there... Suffer through killer exams, endure 100-hour weeks, stand for hours on end operating rooms. You name it we'll do it. The tough part though is reconciling this huge thing we want, to be surgeons, with everything else we want.To often, the thing you want most is the one thing you can't have. Desire leaves us heartbroken; it wears us out. Desire can wreck your life. But as tough as wanting something can be...(Addison pauses in front of the hospital)...the people who suffer the most are those who don't know what they want.E22 “The other side of the life”The dream is this: that we'll finally be happy when we reach our goals... ...find the guy, finish our internship. That's the dream; then we get there and if we're human, we immediately start dreaming of something else. Because if this is the dream then we'd like to wake up... ...now please.At some point, maybe we accept that the dream has become a nightmare. We tell ourselves the reality is better. We convince ourselves it's better that we never dream at all. But the strongest of us, the most determined of us, we hold on to the dream. Or we find ourselves faced with a fresh dream we never considered. We awake to find ourselves...Against all odds...Feeling hopeful. And if we're lucky, we realize...In the face of everything, in the face of life...The true dream...Is being able to dream at all.E23 “Testing”A surgeon's education never ends. Every patient, every symptom, every operation...is a test, a chance for us to demonstrate how much we know...and how much more we have to learn.